Betrayed By Family

The pain that Joseph must have felt being betrayed by his own brothers had to be painful. Could you imagine being mistreated by family members? Many of us can probably understand the painful damage which may have left a mark of unforgiveness. This article is all about forgiveness, and even though I do not feel qualified to write on such a sensitive topic due to my human shortcomings in life, it is God who has given me the experience, resources, and the outlet to do so. What I would like you to take away for this blog, is a sense of inner-peace!  
Many of us may have built- up- anger due to something that our mother, father, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, cousin, or close family friend may have done. What may really hurt is that after you forgave them, they may have repeated the smae offense, multiple times.  Jesus said we are to forgive others “seventy times seven” in response to Peter’s question, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" (Matthew 18:21-22). Yet Jesus also says to shake the dust off as well. If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town- and shake the dust off your feet. Matthew 10:14
Some say that this remark was meant for the journey of discipleship, but if we claim to be a disciple of Jesus we must protect our well being which shields the Holy Spirit, a gift that must be protected at all times. When we were young, we could not control those who violated our trust, yet greater is the gift that is in YOU that is in this world. Jesus knew about the mistreatment . Hanging on the cross he said, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing. Luke 23:34 When you become older you must flee from whatever binds you, for the sake of your mental health and future generation. Jesus died so that we may have eternal life, yet knowing His peace is  to be represented in heaven and earth. 

"Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. (Matthew 18:18) Forgiveness helps you get rid of anger; this does not mean that you have to let that person repeat the same offense over and over again. Forgive and move on in faith not in anger, and it is okay- to be stern- with a person who is trying to bind your or control you.  Remember that true- loved ones do not provoke arguments, only demons- rouse strife. Rebuke and flee from this bondage.  We all have done wrong at one time or another and either that person forgave us, or denied us the acceptance of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a very important part of our lives. Yet being bound by a person that keeps repeating the same offense over and over again is exhausting, and foolish.
Establish when it’s time to move on. If the person that you are around is controlling you, make arrangements to leave, you can only serve one- God.
James 3:17 - But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, [and] easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
A controlling person argues until he gets his or her way. Little children argue because they don’t know any better, however as you grow older and wiser in your faith you will let God handle it. I failed in this department, and as time moved on, I realized that I had to move away from these individual. I wanted to be controlled by the Holy Spirit, not by man. I forgave these family member, and moved on. If these family members should ever become truly- sick, I will be available, yet through counsel and prayer, it was time to move on. Sometimes- the trap of negative thoughts will creep into my mind, filled with anger aganist the family members who tried to transfer their hurt onto me. I have to rebuke these thoughts, daily and pray.
Refuse To Be A Doormat.  (How To Forgive Family And Friends)“Blood is thicker than water.” We have all heard that lie. The Bible says, in ‘Proverbs 18:24New International Version (NIV) 24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,  but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.’
Jesus has said many times that much persecution is to be encountered by those who choose to follow Him. This is how He describes the object of His mission on earth. Matthew 10:34. "Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword.

35 "For I have come to 'set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law'; 36 "and 'a man's enemies will be those of his own household.' Reference: Yves I-Bing Cheng, M.D., M.A. www.meetingwithchrist.com
​Usually when you are on the right track as a follower of Christ, you will separate from your family members and wayward friends, not because you don’t forgive them, because you have- forgiven them and now it is time to move forward with Christ.  (How To Forgive Yourself) Remember that Jesus saved a woman who was set to be stoned by a judgmental crowd. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." John 8:7 And Jesus went on to say, John 8:10-11King James Version (KJV) “Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee? 11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.  If you have moved forward in unforgivenss, your journey will be bitter towards those who have not offended you and your blessings will not emerge.
Forgive & Move On, Don't Waste Your Time Trying To Please Ungrateful Family Members, As Seen In The Movie  'Million Dollar Baby'
​ Forgive & Move On! Don't Waste Your Time Trying To Please Ungrateful Family Members, As Seen In The Movie  'Million Dollar Baby'




I am happy to say that I’ve moved on in forgivenss, and my fruit is very good and overflowing!!! God has filled my life with honest and helpful sisters and brothers in Christ, yet most of all, God has filled my life with the Holy Spirit, which leads me in the right direction for God’s purpose. THE TRUTH WILL SET  YOU FREE! Move Forward! Don't let anyone steal your- peace. Your peace and joy, is a gift from above, guard it with all of your heart, soul, and mind. 

​Emunah La-Paz

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                               How To Forgive & Move On

The extent of forgiveness can be examined through Joseph, A young man that was sold into slavery by his own brothers, (Genesis Chapter 37). As Seen in a clip from the animated movie, 'Joseph The Dreamer'

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